Closet Elimination Project Steps 4-5: The Joy of Custom Wallpaper

With the first three phases of grief behind me, I’ve moving on to the step four of seven: depression, reflection, and lonliness. I am a bit depressed, mostly because every morning when I wake up I’m staring at a giant pile of my clothes, shoes and bathroom “necessities” that I’ve been putting off organizing for a week. Reflection? I am reflecting on how much clothing and makeup I purged—several large garbage bags worth—and how I still have piles with no home. Lonely? I do feel that ironic loneliness that happens when you’re surrounded by so much, but still feeling alone this world. And I am indeed alone in my responsibility to get it all in order.

But let’s take a baby step towards step number five, “the upward turn,” by celebrating the amazing custom wallpaper we’ve installed in The Teen’s room. Truth be told I didn’t lift a finger to install it. The kind folks at NousDecor recruited celebrity interior designer Mark Cutler (he did JLo’s house!) to design a wallpaper featuring all of our boy’s favorite things, plus a design for the rest of the room! Read more about it here.


I’m focusing for now on the wallpaper because 1. It’s the coolest thing in the room, 2. The Teen called it “sick” when he saw it for the first time, which cool/young people in my life tell me is a positive review, and 3. We still have a little work to do on the rest of the room.

But stay tuned, because I have a deadline. is filming our home at the end of this month, so both my room and The Teen’s must be ready by then! This is a good thing, because otherwise things may continue as is, with my bags of bags (Yes I have several bags that contain nothing but other bags. At least they are together with their kind) piled atop bags of shoes which are wedged in between my bags of beauty products.

Closet Elimination Project: Phases 1-3

The first step is admitting you have to give up your walk-in closet. The second step is having a good cry. The third step is formulating a plan for what in god’s name you’re going to do will all of your clothes.


This has been my closet for the past four years, and the rest of the room has been my office. In less than a month, we’ll be getting a new member of our family (more on that later), and this will be his closet and room.



It’s going to be a lot of work, but he’s a seriously awesome dude and I don’t mind at all giving up this room my husband has taken to calling the “doll house.” In fact, I’m looking forward to paring down my clothing to a wardrobe that will fit on just ONE (maybe 1.5) clothing rack. I have SO MUCH stuff I never wear. (Stay tuned for a rummage sale right here on the blog!) And I’m excited because I’m recruiting a handful of talented and awesome people to help with the new design.

My new closet will be a custom-made rack in this corner of our bedroom. I’ll also need some other furniture, probably a dresser or two, TBD.



My new office will be located in what’s currently known as the “man cave,” so it will need a bit of feminizing. But I’m up to the task!


Now that the first (dnd second) steps are taken care of, it’s time to move on to some serious reorganization. Stand by for steps three through—god knows what!

Photos via Apartment Therapy.

Seven Practical Ways to Use a Moroccan Pouf in Your Home

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On an outdoor patio. Photo via Cush and Nooks

I bought a white leather Moroccan pouf the other day at the Serena and Lily outlet,  and I’m so into it! First it was the hanging rattan chair, and now once again S + L has fulfilled a years-long dream of mine to own a particular furniture item. They’re both pieces that the husband resists spending money on because they don’t seem practical. But both the chair and the pouf were acquired thanks to collaborations with Serena and Lily, so he couldn’t argue. Plus, *I* would argue that the pouf is totally practical. You can easily move it from room to room and it can double as a table. Check out a six more ways to style one below!

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What Rocker Alison Mosshart Wore at Art Basel Miami Beach

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Photo by Robyn Ross

I’ve attended Art Basel Miami Beach nearly every year since 2006 with my bestie Robyn. But I couldn’t make it this year, and so of course this is the year when she runs into my favorite rocker chick Alison Mosshart. If you’re not familiar, she’s one-half of The Kills with Jamie Hince, aka Mr. Kate Moss. I’m not going to mope, because I only would have turned into a pathetic giggling teenager, not the cool kind with a cute mugshot. I’m just going to talk about her rad outfit OK?

When Robyn approached her for a photo, Mosshart was checking out this insane sculpture of Salvador Dali. She happily agreed and said, “Oh let me go over by the Iron Maiden painting.” Not only was Robyn lucky enough to run into Ms. Mosshart at the Scope Art Fair, one of many satellite fairs that happen the same week at Art Basel, but she was lucky enough to run into her in the vicinity of an Iron Maiden painting. What could be more perfect? Also, OH: “Can you put Alison Mosshart plus nine on the list?” Aah, to be a rock star.

Update: Mosshart is exhibiting her paintings at Scope with Joseph Gross gallery.

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Don’t Miss Serena & Lily’s Limited-Time Berkeley Outlet


I’ve teamed up in the past with Serena & Lily, makers of interior magic, and I’m excited to collaborating with them once again to spread the word about their discount outlet in Berkeley. They’re offering up merchandise with small dents and dings as well as samples through December 8 only at a temporary outlet in Berkeley. All hard goods, bedding and decorative accessories are at least 40 percent off the original price, and upholstered items are at least 30 percent off. You’ll find lots of one-of-a-kind pieces at amazing prices. Personally, I’m coveting one of those poufs! Click below for some examples of the treasures you could find!

Serena & Lily Outlet
1360 Tenth Street, Berkeley, CA – off Gilman
(Google might tell you it’s 1330, FYI)

OPEN – Monday, Thursday, Friday & Saturday: 10am – 4pm
CLOSED – Tuesday, Wednesday & Sunday
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Virginia Elwood Adapts Toca Boca Characters as Temporary Tattoos—You’ll Want a Permanent One!


So don’t tell my mom, but I’m obsessed with the idea of getting a tattoo. I’ve seen so many beautiful ones on women I admire recently. (I confess this began with a marathon viewing of L.A. Ink.) Plus, I figure, I’m 46 years old. At least half of my life has been lived without a tattoo. Time’s a-wastin’.

So it was perfect timing when I found out that online and mobile kids’ game Toca Boca is collaborating with tattoo artist extraordinaire Virginia Elwood (who earlier this year was featured in Vogue!) Since discovering her work, I’m considering paying her a visit at Saved Tattoo in Brooklyn for my own ink, as they say (plus Robyn lives there, maybe she would hold my hand). Until then, Frida and I have been having fun with the temporary versions Elwood designs based on Toca Boca characters. I chatted with her on the phone to find out more about the collab and her inspirational career.

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On the 1 With Frida: Orange County and Hearst Castle

Welcome to On the 1 With Frida, where we explore all the fun CA Route 1 has to offer.

A favorite moment in OC.

A favorite moment in OC.

We recently drove down to Southern California from San Francisco the fast way, and came back up the slow way on Route 1. We swam at Mayee and Baba’s (the grandparents on daddy’s side) in Orange County, ate delicious Mexican food for lunch in Santa Barbara, stayed at a cozy AirBnB in San Luis Obispo, checked out Hearst Castle, and drank bubbly Monterey. We had to postpone a stop at the Monterey Aquarium, but we’ll be back (despite our suspicions that people in that town hate children).
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All the Stars in This Movie Are Eleven

I am Eleven

If the word “tween” makes you queasy, Australian filmmaker Genevieve Bailey will ease those concerns with her incredibly charming film I Am Eleven. She traveled the world for six years interviewing 25 11-year-olds across the globe, from the United States to France to India and Australia and beyond. They’re no longer babies, but not yet teenagers, and it’s a magical time when unselfconsciousness combined with surprising intellectual capacity create thoughts and expressions that will delight and surprise you—even if you don’t have kids.

This weekend, Bailey, who has won loads of awards for her filmmaking, is bringing her first feature length documentary, I Am Eleven (which has also won loads of awards), to the Bay Area. I’m beyond honored to have been asked to moderate a Q&A panel with the filmmaker after the screening tonight at the Metreon. Come join me for the film at 7pm with the Q&A directly afterwards. Screenings continue throughout the weekend at The New Parkway theater in Oakland at 2:15 on Saturday and 1pm on Sunday, then at the Christopher B. Smith Rafael Film Center at 4pm on Saturday and Sunday. Hope to see you there!


Learn How To Keep Your Cool After Becoming a Mom


If you’re expecting, or trying to adopt, even if you’ve been trying really hard to be a mom for years like I did, you might have all kinds of fears about what life is going to be like after your little person arrives. I certainly did, and I would’ve loved something like Lovemade, an events series created by my friends Jeanne Chan of ShopSweetThings and Janette Crawford of Sun + Dotter and Homepolish.

Their goal is to reassure you that you will not lose your cool, your edginess, your character, or any of the other awesome stuff that makes you you, just because you’re a mom. Their first workshop is on Saturday, where expecting moms will learn about nursery design, maternity and baby fashion, breastfeeding, get a makeup tutorial with Bare Minerals artists, get baby bump photos with Sarah Hebenstreit of Modern Kids, plus listen to a panel about work-life balance with Katie Hintz-Zambrano, founder of Mother magazine, Erica Chan Coffman of Honestlywtf and Liz Stanley of Say Yes.

The workshop costs $375 (sign up here), and includes a SWEET gift bag stuffed with goodies from International Orange spa, Freshly Picked baby moccasins (which make me want to have another infant immediately), The Honest Company diapers, bibs, bottles and lots more. Space is limited to 15, so sign up quick!

Linda Fahey Ceramics in a Magical Redwood Grove


A few weeks ago, we made a trip out to the King’s Mountain Art Fair in Woodside. It’s a magical event, with arts, crafts, food and drink nestled among a shady redwood grove (mark your calendars for next year!). The highlight of the day was running into Linda Fahey (who is also a friend and fellow Pacifican) and her amazing ceramics. She created an exclusive collection for Anthropologie last year, and is working on another, which will be available for holiday 2014. Watch out for it, and follow her on Instagram to track her progress!

If you’re in the Bay Area, stop by her Yonder Shop at 158 Reina Del Mar in Pacifica (right next to Gorilla BBQ). And congrats are in order: the shop just made the SF Chronicle’s list of the Bay Area’s top 100 shops! It’s not tough to see why—from her big, nautically-themed platters, to her Tiny Love Cups, everything is incredibly unique and beautiful, and it’s all handmade by Linda. I’ve been jonesing for one of her driftwood spoons for a while now, and a tall ship platter is also on my must-buy list.

Also look out for an upcoming collaboration with graphic designer and printmaker Julia Kostreva. More info coming soon! Check out lots more of her work below, plus more shots from the fair.
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